The Questions We Ask of Each Other

There’s a bucket of automatic questions we ask each other:

What do you do? Where are you from? Where did you go to school?

Given how often we ask these questions, you’d think people love answering them. Funny, though, I have yet to meet someone who says, I wish more people would ask me what I do or where I went to school.

Perhaps, then, there’s a more human approach.

So. What’s a question you wish people would ask you? How’s your life at the moment? What’s the last view that caught your breath in your throat? What do you know today that you didn’t know yesterday?

Now, we can ask those questions of others.

It’s going off-script. Which often allows others to go off-script. Answering, “What do you do?” doesn’t take much thought. But answering, “What’s surprised you today?” opens the window for new thinking. As well as deeper connection.

Some folks won’t be up for it. There’s comfort and safe distance in pat questions. But some folks, perhaps many folks, will find it refreshing, even relieving.

The automatic scripts of how we interact with each other were written by people. And now and again, we people can do some rewriting to make them more human.

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