Re-Learning Our Relationship with Time

When we’re born, we get given this thing that’s so big, so powerful, we almost don’t notice it.

We get given time.

With it, we learn to use our hands, eat mashed bananas and pears, add and subtract, write five-paragraph essays.

Then maybe when we’re 18, 19, 20 years old, something starts to happen.

We begin thinking we don’t have enough time. We say, I don’t have time to read that book. I’m too busy to go to that cookout. There’s never enough time.

And nearly everyone around us relates to time like this, too.

Which is a bit nutty, isn’t it? We get handed time with no strings attached. It’s an absurd gift. And so quickly, we start talking about how we didn’t get enough of it.

It’s like someone baked us a cake and instead of saying thanks, we said, “But it’s not four times bigger? This isn’t enough!”

So, what if we chose to re-learn our relationship to this absurd gift? We learned how to use our hands, add and subtract, write five-paragraph essays. Re-learning time is within our power.

I think it starts with deciding how we want to relate to it. With abundance? Gratitude? Reverence? Awe? Then we choose, over and over, to engage with time in that spirit.

It’s an on-going undertaking. Like any worthwhile relationship, we need to keep on showing up for it, learning and growing from it. But it’s worth every ounce of effort we put into it.

Time is always with us. We can dismiss it, belittle it, talk resentfully about it. Or we can care for it. And there’s no relationship that isn’t bettered by more care.

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BelongingCaitie Whelan