Making More Honest Choices

The other morning, I heard a terrific answer to a tough question. 

A writer was being interviewed. The interviewer asked him a question that was something to the tune of, Was that an important moment or not?

It was an im- the writer started. Then he paused. When he resumed talking, he described the moment as not important or unimportant, but as something else entirely. And when he spoke, his voice was honest and impassioned. 

The interviewer had offered him a false choice: was it this or that? Which suggests that it could be nothing else. 

And the writer nearly accepted that it could only be this or that. Many of us do, right? We think we have to decide if we stay or go, say yes or no, buy or don't. 

But rarely, if ever, are these black and white choices the only options. There's a rich field of possibility available to us. And to find it, I think we are called to do what the writer did: Pause. 

If the readily apparent choices don't sit right with us, we can use that as a signal to pause and ask ourselves, What are the other choices I haven't considered yet? 

Could we stay for a little while, then go? Could we say, Yes and..., Could we buy somewhere else or buy something else entirely? 

And while there are no guarantees, there's a chance that in pausing, we'll discover a choice that's just as honest and impassioned as the one the writer landed on. 

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