I used to aim for fearlessness. That seemed to be the high water mark of courage and boldness.
And I blew through huge amounts of energy, willpower, stamina trying to eradicate my fear. But after all that, it was still kicking around.
Eradication wasn't working for me. So what I'm focusing on these days is something like fear management.
If we can't control the existence of fear, we can at least choose how we respond to it. And the response I aim for is, In this moment, I will answer to my courage, not my fear. Just because we have fear doesn't mean we have to be loyal to it.
So, I've been shifting all that energy, willpower, stamina towards going with courage. Sometimes I can, sometimes I can't. It's a practice and a process.
But what I'm seeing is that having fear might not be the issue. It's what we do with it that matters.